Philosphy of mating

'Behind every great women there is a man...............checking out her ass.' I cannot agree more. Love Sex n Relationships are hotly read and debated topics and I have written about them in many of my previous posts. So whats new this time? Nothing much except that you can never write enough about them. I am not a relationship guru and I don't intend to be one so its just my take on things.

When I talk about love in this post I just mean romantic love between couples so the deduction and inference may or may not hold for other relationships.

Different Stages of Love

1) Attraction and lust - Romantic relationships starts with attraction. Well it may not be physical attraction only but couples get attracted to one quality or the other. We as humans have so many physical and personality traits which affect different people differently. Some one may find reading books a great hobby some one may just find it boring so relationship starts when one find the other attractive. Now once we are attracted to someone the lust starts creeping in. We may resist it initially but it is what fools us into doing things which we may not have done otherwise. Once we are fully attracted and lust has corrupted the mind we start the next phase in a relationship..'The Chase'..

2) The Chase and the selection - Once we are fully engulfed into mother natures trap we start the long chase. It differs from person to person and culture to culture. It may be easy when attraction is mutual or may be impossible when the compatibility is negligible. However it is a very interesting phase of relationship and have motivated numerous poets writers and movie makers . Under the spell of lust and attraction people go to any extent to get what they want.
They will follow their mate day and night, change themselves to meet the lover's requirement, spend a hell lot of money both hard earned or inherited in wooing the love of their life. The selection is at times affected by the vigor of the chase and at times by absence of any option. It may lead to violent outcomes , may die a natural death or may lead to our next phase the bliss.

3) The Bliss - Once the selection is done the couple enter a blissful phase. The length of this phase depends on the compatibility, adaptability and priority of the people involved. This is a happy phase where our minds are completely wired down by the nature's intoxicants. The lust leads to copulation, sex and more sex. People try and adjust with those they have fallen in love with. They try and discover each other and did I mention they have sex a lot. Some relationships may just breakdown at this stage as once the lust has been satisfied the attraction begin to fade and relationship becomes heavy. Those who are lucky progress on to the next stage.

4) The Bloodbath - The bloodbath is most difficult phase in a relationship. It is this which test the strength of our love. Once the bliss is over the attraction becomes feeble. Each others shortcomings become very apparent. We discover things which we may not like or hate it all together. The differences begins to crop up. There is occasional disagreement and may result in heated arguments. All living beings are unique and when they try to attain a stable relationship it may result in interference of their personality and both of them becomes a bit different. Its like atoms of sodium and Chlorine when bonded form salt very different from what they individually were before the bond formation. This phase is about lots of experimentation and discovery. Many relationships breakdown during this phase and some stagnate in absence of any other option. The luckiest few proceed on to have ' Oneness'.

5) Oneness - This is the final phase of the relationship ladder. It is marked by extreme peace and warmth of the relationship that has seen everything. The relationship has made both individuals bonded in something greater than need, lust and necessity. Each one is now habitual of the other and they accept the other as extension of their own self. It is now a perfect combination and stable relationship. It is something when voice is not required for talking and eyes are not required for watching. There is a spiritual connection and mythical bond between individuals. Now it is a journey growing old and dieing in the arms of the beloved. I am sorry for being sentimental but death is fact and no harm accepting it.


Relationships are easy to form but difficult to carry on with. It needs care,time and attention of those who are involved. The philosophy of mating and relationship follow simple rules but are followed only by the lucky few.