Fading reflections

I always believed we as human beings only perceive the reflections. What we observe and interpret in our general life is more of a mirror image of the fact. It though symmetric to the real world is still a image governed and even manipulated by the laws of higher order. This blog is however not about philosophical interpretation of mirrorical universe but its results over a period of time on my life.
This blog is about friends and friendship. Humans being a social animal always seeks companionship and exhibit powerful group behavior. Friends form an integral part of our existence. One of a popular seer of our time once remarked that it is only the best friend we will meet in the world beyond (Heaven). Well I am not sure of the other world (hell or heaven) but I am very sure that we in this world do need friends for a having a life worth living. Different friends contribute differently to our lives during different stages of our lives. This blog is for those friends who are no longer part of my life and have left behind nothing except for memories to cherished and fading reflections to look at.

Earliest friends are from the junior school where we form friendship just by intuition and not for profit making and the bonds are the strongest then. But sadly the friendship rarely survives when we move to high schools and they all are lost somewhere as a part of neuron database. The high school friends are made during a much mature age so the principles of Game theory come in picture. Friends are made with common habits, common subjects and sometimes because of common hatred. We loose touch with them generally due to change in college and carrier preferences. College friends are made on more mature terms and our own decision plays a greater part. College friends tend be far more stable elements than any of the other breeds of friends. However they also loose touch as we get more involved in quenching our individualistic requirements . During this period the friends we make are generally to meet some of our needs. We rarely made good friends during our profession however exceptions are always there. However we all need good friends and it is painful to part with them. Social dynamics make sure that people become friends and move out of each other's life only to leave back memories. Today when i look back on all those past years Ii can just see fade reflections of all those who were once the people I called friend.

Here I stand watching those fading reflections of the people who were once part of my life with hope that they will brighten up at least for once.

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