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Love and Need

We as living beings share one thing common among us all...'Need'. From the tiniest of the bacteria to the gigantic whales all are driven by need. Life is driven by this ever present need. Need to feed oneself, need to procreate and need to enjoy the small luxuries life gives us all.

We humans being with a much developed consciousness and response system have more needs and complex socio economic systems give rise to very diverse taste and requirements. Need we can easily conclude lead to all forms of pursuits and emotions . Last day I got into argument for saying that all our emotions including love arise due to one or the other need. However I agree once love blossomed it grow larger than the need itself and may last longer than the need and sometimes even a lifetime. This attribute of love make it so great. Well by love I don't mean only the romantic love but all forms of love all living beings exhibit with each other or even with inanimate things. For example our quest for knowledge which is inherently a need may lead us to different books and we may love it for our time together. We may continue to love them even after we have read it. Thus love can cross the initial impetus of need and like an uniform motion can continue infinitely. What makes us fall in love with something depends entirely on how it satisfied our needs. It grow slowly on us and rarely do we realize that our need is no longer important and love in itself is fulfilling.
It can however be debated if love fools us into doing things we as a selfish living entities will never do. But we can't complain as these experiences make this life worth living. Need or no need we want love. ..

Comments

Me said…
does your need* leads to yourself? to introspect, to know yourself?
CJ said…
Hmmm, I would go further an argue that love exists in spite of need, not because of it...

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