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The art of growing up


Everyone wants me to grow up. My parents, my colleagues, my friends and even my twelve year old cousins. I wish I could fulfill their request..but have failed miserably till now. I always thought growing up is a science where in mother nature stretches you from an invisible cell to a complex organism with the passage of time. The interaction with everything outside you teaches and help you evolve into grown up man or woman or perhaps both( your choice).

The growing up in this world is no longer an science but perhaps an art which everyone must master to be a truly grown up being. I wished I could attend some coaching classes which could help me grow up. As learning and success is now directly proportional to the classes one can attend so I was in search of something which could help me behave like a grown up man. It was until I met this gentlemen who promised he could help me grow up. It was an exciting experience with him for sure. If my laziness could have permitted I would have elaborated on my interaction with him but I am just summarizing his great insight into the art of growing up.
He proclaimed... in order to be a grown up you must master the following ..

1) Hypocrisy - If you are not a hypocrite you are not a grownup my friend. Hypocrisy is an advance form of human emotion which has evolved after centuries of trial and is perfect to save anyone is this cruel world of grown up people.

2) Dishonesty - You should be dishonest to the core even to yourself so that you can sleep effortlessly at nights. It becomes difficult to be honest to anyone if you want to move ahead in this grown up world.

3) Greed - Well you must get used to greed if you want to grow. The greed will make you ruthless perhaps will put some fire in your belly to speed up the process. The greed should not only be for the things you can have but for the things others have.

4) Jealousy - If you are happy with what your friends success then you must be spanked till you grow jealous of everybody around you and even of yourself so that you can get rid of your worn out self to grow mature enough.

5) Fearfulness - You must be afraid of what others are doing even if they helped you there must be a vicious thought behind this deed. You must be fearful of each and everyone of the persons around you and should never trust anybody.

The learned coach of mine explained that we all are blessed with these great attributes its that we as a child need to nourish them to be a grown up person. I am not sure whether I have learned and grown up but atleast I understand that
' Growing old is a necessity but Growing up is not'

Comments

abhi said…
damn good post
my inner world said…
i had a nice time reading your post. it is so true. It may sound a cliche but according to your post , i dont think i can ever be a grown up:)
keep up the good work:)

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