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Honesty and Relationship


If you ask me what is the most single most important aspect that determines the fate of any relationship I can bet my ass on Honesty. Relationships are based on mutual respect and belief and when we are not honest with each other the relationship will not last for long. We may love the person with our heart but if we are afraid to speak the truth with that person then its not only disrespectful to that person but undermines the relationship.
I understand when we start a new relationship we generally want to impress the other person with all our positive qualities and don't reveal everything about ourselves very quickly. I also agree as long as the other person is comfortable one does not have to bring up unfortunate events from the past. However once we are in a stable relationship one must be truthful to each other. We tend to lie to hide something and it indicates that we are afraid of something. Fear can have very bad effect on health of a relationship. It better to come out of a relationship than to live in a fear or else the fear will make the relationship unbearable and in the end it will leave a very bad taste for everyone involved. If we respect the person we are in a relationship with then we must always speak our mind and be honest with our feelings. This may at times bring some issues and strain relations but those are like workout for relationships and will surely strengthen it in a long run. As far I am concerned I will like to have relationships with only those people with whom I can be honest with and who can return me the favor.

Comments

Gagan said…
very nice !!


keep posting ~~
7:53 AM
md said…
yaa... i do feel that they go hand in hand... honesty n frnship!!!
10:36 PM
Chintan Patel said…
nice... like ur blod style..
11:35 PM
•sowmya• said…
honesty... yaa i agree is required in any relation, be it love or friendship... but wt i think is trust is also needed...

well said... keep up the wrk..!
11:37 AM
pushkalAn& pattabhiraman said…
i beg to differ!
there always has to be a bit of fear in a relationship
Not the fear of losing the person
but the fear of hurting the person!
Its just a reflection of mutual respect
12:59 PM
Sushant said…
Yes sowmya..trust is a necessity in a relationship but without honesty its meaningless.
10:33 PM
my inner world said…
so true

if u arent honest towards the relation , its of no worth.
1:55 AM
Sushant said…
Hi pushkalan..we hurt someone emotionally only when we fail to understand a emotional requirement of a person. My point is we must respect a persons emotion but we should not do something which will actually hurt him or her and then lie to hide it. We must confess our acts and that is mutual respect.
10:01 AM
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