Getting Married is an important decision in life and for better or for worse it do change you. Though it comes with no warranty it is one of the riskiest decisions of your life. The concept of two people living together and sharing every joy and sorrow seem so good on paper but living it up is a different ball game. I am still a bachelor so my account here is strictly from the observer's view point.
You can fall in love and can get married or get married and fall in love either way you do fall in love so a Honeymoon period do exist in marriage. The length of it however depend on the individuals and the plain good luck.
The next phase starts with incompatibilities getting active in the relationship. We tend to realize the things which are irritating in our partner and difference of opinions can lead to small fights. This can lead to serious issues if either of the partner has a violent streak or there is a scope of infidelity.
If one survives this difficult period the partners tend to define individual space and a "Our Space" for themselves. It is the optimal relationship where each partner understands and assimilates their differences. The relationship become passive but it generates a lot of warmth. The partners are now used to each other and accepts them as they are after the change that have come due to their marriage.This relationship is now resistant to in-laws but is not to infidelity.
Though it is not suggestive that one should live through an uncomfortable and abusive marriage but breaking a marriage just due to a incompatibilities is something that can be prevented. There is no perfect marriage and like all human institutions it is has it its share of problems but it is still blissful and is worth the experience.
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