Ok! How many of us really think any guru can fix those thorny relationship issues..I guess a lot thats why we have so many counselors and therapists. I think more than anything they provide a whole new dimension to view the problem helping individuals make informed decisions. When a person is in emotional pain its difficult for him to come to a solution all by himself and talking to an expert always help. But the problem is to find a real guru and not a dude whose life is dedicated to screwing people to milk money out of them. Sometimes the real helpers are our own people who can really channelize the pain out of you.
The other day we were having an informal chat within our group of friends and colleagues. It all started with this couplet..
Nafrat bhii nahi Adawat bhii nahi Us saksh ko humse mohabat hii nahi..... Hum jee nahi sakte jiske bina Us zaalim ko hamari zarurat hii nahi..
being orated by one of the guys nursing his broken heart. Well it got serious when this dude lost it and started crying yelling her name. It was now turn of the guru to speak.
He started slowly narrating the story of this guy he met on a tea shop.
The guy was tall but with sunken eyes and bald hairline. My cousin introduced me to him saying this guy was the university topper and was having a bright carrier ahead when suddenly he lost it all because of some love affair. He is now very friendly to people but sit here in this stall the whole day never speaking much. I being in love myself felt sorry for him and said hi inquiring how was he doing. He asked me if I was in love too. I said yes and before I could complete myself he said, "My friend you can either be successful in Love or in Life.If you are successful in life you will have a good family, a fat bank balance , a big home and a secure life but if you succeed in love, you will be siting in some tea stall like me waiting eternally." I was too shocked to answer him back and had to left the place quickly. But now when I look back at my life I know he was right. I lost the love game and perhaps I was lucky to at least life giving me a second chance. Don't get me wrong being successful in love does not mean marrying the person we are in love with. Its a more difficult and complex process than that. But coming back to our topic I must say that I do understand the pain and emotional trauma one goes through during loss of ones love. Its not only unbearable but drives out all life of our body.
Its the art of letting it go that is something we must practice. We must start by asking oneself what is more important my lust , my possession or well being of my lover. Respecting each others decision is the hallmark of true love. Besides fate can be cruel. It gives us more than we deserve but takes us what we want. This randomness is unfair but thats the way it is. I miss my love everyday but a sense of belief of her well being is sufficient for me to get on with my life. If nothing else I must live for those who are left with me if not for those who are gone. The pain of separation is one of the many lessons life gives us. Its our destiny to take on our stride all the blessings and sufferings life gives us.
The mood was now quite grim in the group. But at last this heartbroken kid manage to wipe his tears and perhaps was looking forward to what was ahead. We got up and start leaving. As we moved out we could hear the faint music coming from this FM handset
Sau dard hai...Sau rahetain..
Sab mila dil nashin... Ek tu hi naheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee...
We rushed down before the mood could turn any bad. As per the time of writing this blog the guru and our dude have become very close friends and it seems our heartbreak kid is coming to terms with his loss.. I wish him a very speedy recovery.
The other day we were having an informal chat within our group of friends and colleagues. It all started with this couplet..
Nafrat bhii nahi Adawat bhii nahi Us saksh ko humse mohabat hii nahi..... Hum jee nahi sakte jiske bina Us zaalim ko hamari zarurat hii nahi..
being orated by one of the guys nursing his broken heart. Well it got serious when this dude lost it and started crying yelling her name. It was now turn of the guru to speak.
He started slowly narrating the story of this guy he met on a tea shop.
The guy was tall but with sunken eyes and bald hairline. My cousin introduced me to him saying this guy was the university topper and was having a bright carrier ahead when suddenly he lost it all because of some love affair. He is now very friendly to people but sit here in this stall the whole day never speaking much. I being in love myself felt sorry for him and said hi inquiring how was he doing. He asked me if I was in love too. I said yes and before I could complete myself he said, "My friend you can either be successful in Love or in Life.If you are successful in life you will have a good family, a fat bank balance , a big home and a secure life but if you succeed in love, you will be siting in some tea stall like me waiting eternally." I was too shocked to answer him back and had to left the place quickly. But now when I look back at my life I know he was right. I lost the love game and perhaps I was lucky to at least life giving me a second chance. Don't get me wrong being successful in love does not mean marrying the person we are in love with. Its a more difficult and complex process than that. But coming back to our topic I must say that I do understand the pain and emotional trauma one goes through during loss of ones love. Its not only unbearable but drives out all life of our body.
Its the art of letting it go that is something we must practice. We must start by asking oneself what is more important my lust , my possession or well being of my lover. Respecting each others decision is the hallmark of true love. Besides fate can be cruel. It gives us more than we deserve but takes us what we want. This randomness is unfair but thats the way it is. I miss my love everyday but a sense of belief of her well being is sufficient for me to get on with my life. If nothing else I must live for those who are left with me if not for those who are gone. The pain of separation is one of the many lessons life gives us. Its our destiny to take on our stride all the blessings and sufferings life gives us.
The mood was now quite grim in the group. But at last this heartbroken kid manage to wipe his tears and perhaps was looking forward to what was ahead. We got up and start leaving. As we moved out we could hear the faint music coming from this FM handset
Sau dard hai...Sau rahetain..
Sab mila dil nashin... Ek tu hi naheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee...
We rushed down before the mood could turn any bad. As per the time of writing this blog the guru and our dude have become very close friends and it seems our heartbreak kid is coming to terms with his loss.. I wish him a very speedy recovery.
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it is certainly disheartening when heart breaks or when we feel we are cheated. but then life goes on and so do we have to , the more we let go things off, there will be more space with us so that the more new ones may come to us.
btw: gud to know u r in love, congrates and all the best :)
the best thing that i liked in the
post is the definition of being successful in LOVE and LIFE, no other definition can be as apt as this one.
Also I must add all my posts are from a third person perspective. I try not to bring in my personal life in any of these as it may hurt people around me.
Thanks for your appreciation..
u gotta balance em both to have a successful life..nicely posted..
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really true man !!
very very nicely presented!!
I would rate this as the best post of your blog !!
some one said to me one day...happiness is a relative term. i would say i am content..